I know the feeling oh, too well! You’ve gone from being this social butterfly with clear glowing skin to a depressed, sad and anxious hermit. Putting on makeup hurts. It’s so much effort and you still don’t feel confident with a whole face of “war paint”. You feel helpless and have no idea what to do.
It wasn’t too long ago that I would have given my left arm to be cured of acne. I didn’t want to leave the house to do my food shopping, let alone go out and face the world in a social setting. So how do you deal with the social anxiety you feel on a daily basis?
Stop The Negative Cycle
We are constantly looking in the mirror thinking how ugly we are or how ashamed we are of our skin. How is that type of environment meant to foster any type of positive emotion?
Believe it or not, the times when you hate yourself the most are the best times to practice positive thinking.
Do any of these thoughts sound familiar?
- I can’t do that/go there because my skin is too bad
- I’m not good enough
- Other people are more attractive or more successful than me
- I don’t do things as well as other people do
- I don’t have time to look after myself/rest
- I can’t afford this
Part of the reason we are so down about ourselves is because we haven’t showed ourselves any love. As we begin to spend more time working on ourselves, confidence will gradually be rebuilt.
Rebuild Your Confidence with Daily Positive Affirmations
Affirmations are positive statements that you say to yourself daily. They are best done in front of a mirror so you can look into your own eyes. Sounds a little strange huh? Truth be told, this is one of the most effective ways to re-build a positive body image. Telling yourself that you are enough, you are loved and you are beautiful as you are.
It’s hard to like yourself when you look in the mirror and you just want to cry. I totally get it. But feeling down about ourselves will not make the situation any better.
The best thing you can do is beginning to rebuild your confidence again. The best results come from daily positive affirmations. It’s very simple to do and anyone can do it, virtually anywhere!
Start with some very basic affirmations such as:
- I love and approve of myself.
- I trust in the process of life, I am safe.
- I am pleased with my appearance.
Repeat these statements over and over in front of a mirror for 10-20 minutes. If you repeat this every day for 30 days, you will start to see and feel big changes in your life. You will notice a shift in your confidence; suddenly you will notice that you’re starting to feel good about yourself again.
It’s so important to continue with your affirmations even after you start seeing results, as self-love is something that we must continue to do everyday until it really becomes a habit and our way of thinking changes for the better, forever.
Put Yourself First
That’s right. This is a healing journey and in order to help others, you must first help yourself. I am a huge advocate of being kind to others and helping out whenever you can however, I also know my boundaries and how to best look after myself. This is something you must learn to do in order to heal your body and regain your confidence.
Saying no to things you don’t feel like you don’t feel you can commit to is completely okay.
Set yourself a routine to stick to that allows time to prepare your meals properly, complete school or work commitments, spend time with your family and see friends on a social basis.
There also needs to be at least an hour of every day dedicated just for you. That could be anything from going for a walk, daily affirmations, having a nice cup of tea and relaxing, meditation or yoga. It’s up to you.
What do you feel like doing for yourself today? Cherish that time and allow your body time to relax after the stress of the day.
How Long Before I Start Seeing Changes?
Every one is different and will experience healing in different time frames. The most important thing to remember is to be patient with yourself and your body. The best thing you can do is not get angry at yourself when you don’t notice changes straight away, they WILL come.
Before long, you will feel your body becoming stronger and your thought processes becoming more positive. You realize that clear skin will come as a result of loving yourself. Nourishing your body with healthy foods, hydrating your body with lots of clean water and making positive lifestyle choices that show yourself respect.
Make some time today to write a weekly plan for yourself considering nutrition, lifestyle and exercise. Include a daily time slot for affirmations and do this for a minimum of 30 days. Share your experiences with me in the comments below, I would love to hear from you!
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